男主总想毒死我
我的闺蜜之一---美籍华裔女生Rossie曾对我说过一段话,我很受用,她的原话大概是这样的:“S,you can't define your self-worth by in a relationship or not, relationship is a two way street, some people are lucky that they found it, some are not, there are also some people who choose to settle, and you , you haven't found the one ,but you also don't want to settle, so here you are---single ,isn't that normal? nothing wrong with that.(S,你不能以有没有在一段婚恋关系来定义自身价值,感情是两个人的事情,要情投意合,有些人很幸运找到了,有些人没有那么幸运没有找到,也有些人没找到真爱,但是他/她们选择将就凑合,也进入了一段婚恋感情,而你,S,你即没有找到真爱,而你又不想将就凑合,所以现在单着,这不是很正常的状态吗?一点问题都没有)我在中国住了29年,在传统文化背景长大下,所受的影响是男人女人也好,到了一定年龄没有进入某个角色就会被评论,或被自己良心自责,来定义成功、幸福与否